Mean Girls

I used to think mean girls were only a thing in high school, and that once you grew up everyone was just nice, or at least cordial to one other. Unfortunately, my naive state of mind has been broken since I've realized that nothing is really contained to high school, especially not mean girls.

Mean girls are every where. They're at school, at work, at the bar, at the mall, even online. And they are always ready to sneak up on you and deplete every inch of your self worth when you least expect it.

We've been taught to laugh at their tactics through movies and television. And don't get me wrong, I think Mean Girls is just as funny of a movie as the next person, but it holds so much truth that it's almost scary.

Girls really are that mean behind each others backs, and to each others faces. They have a way of making you feel completely irrelevant. And they know how to spread rumours and gossip so that they reach the utmost amount of people for the greatest amount of social destruction. Everyone puts them on a pedestal, but don't let the nice hair and pretty faces fool you, they are simply mean.

I have long since paid no mind to girls of this caliber. Their words used to have a great amount of power over me, but not anymore. I tend to ignore it now, and don't let it bother me. But I realized that for a lot of girls it isn't so easy to do this; that's why I decided to write this.

So, to the girl that goes through her day thinking that everyone hates her. I promise that there are a lot of people out there who love you, and who will love you once they get to know you. The girls that hate you are only being mean because the person they really don't like is themselves, but they can't admit that so they take it out on you.

To the girl that thinks she's too fat, or her nose is too big, or her hair is too frizzy because some mean girl told her this and picked away at the one insecurity that bothered her most. You are perfect! They are the flawed one for deteriorating your confidence. You are beautiful no matter what anyone else says to you, commenting on physical appearances is just a nasty low blow and whoever did that to you doesn't deserve even a minute of your time.

To the girl who got punched in the face, or spat on, or even threatened. Physical violence is not funny, or a joke. And whoever sunk that low to physically hurt you deserves whatever karma is coming to them. Don't retaliate with violence, tell someone close to you and get back at them by holding your head high, there's nothing mean girls hate more than confidence, especially after they try every way they can to bring you down.

To the girl who was the brunt of the nasty rumour that got spread around, you know and the people who are close to you know that it's not true, and thats what is most important. I know how bad rumours can hurt, but I also know how quickly they go away. There will be a new rumour next week. So laugh it off until the storm passes.

I guess what it comes down to is that there's always going to be a mean girl in your life. Someone trying to undermine you and make you feel like complete shit about yourself. But please don't let them do it.

Girls are always mean for one reason and one reason only... because they are jealous of you.

I know your mom has probably told you that 100+ times, but she's right.

So hold your head high, ignore the mean girls, and take their cruelty as a compliment.

Because you are truly amazing. You are smart, and funny, and beautiful. And no one can take that away from you, no matter how hard they might try.